As a recovering people pleaser, I understand how hard it can be to say “no”. That said, I also know firsthand how much enforcing your boundaries can truly set your soul free. Whether it be with others or outside influences, or even with yourself. Because we can certainly sabotage ourselves if we don’t stop ourselves from slipping into unhelpful habits and patterns. And because we all want to live our best lives, and the best versions of ourselves, we all need to embrace he power of saying no. Whether it be to outside influences that drain us, patterns that dull our sparkle, or things that are simply beneath us.
“No” is such a powerful word that can truly set your soul free. Let’s all allow ourselves to assert our boundaries and say “absolutely not” to the nonsense that doesn’t align with us. Or, perhaps, say “not today” when we simply need to protect our energy. Let’s unapologetically stop people pleasing at the expense of our mental health, and constantly draining ourselves. While also telling ourselves “no” when we know what we want in the moment isn’t beneficial for us. As well as to BS that we know is far beneath us. Because why would we act in a way that dulls our sparkle, or even potentially dims someone else’s light?
At the time of publishing this article, it’s NO-vember. Which makes for the perfect time to start saying “NO” to all of the nonsense. But whether it’s November, December, or the middle of April, there is so much power in saying no. Especially as it’s such an important part of our self-care to be able to say no to protect our peace and elevate our lives.
Setting Boundaries to Set Your Soul Free
My lovely, it’s time to stop saying yes when you know that you want to say no. It’s also time to stop allowing yourself to be a doormat to others, no matter who they may be. You know that you deserve so much better than that. Your peace is most certainly worth protecting. Your energy and time are extremely valuable, and you have the right to decide who and what you do or don’t lend it to. And in no way should you ever feel guilty for saying no to what doesn’t serve you. Especially when your boundaries are being crossed.
It’s also important to remember that we can not pour from an empty vessel. And sometimes? The best thing we can do for ourselves and for others is to protect our energy so we don’t become burnt out. Giving yourself space to rest is an essential part of your self-care. And honestly, so is straight-up saying “no” when something doesn’t vibe with you. Along with not allowing anyone to treat you poorly and cross your boundaries.
1. Taking On Tasks That Only Drain You
While it’s wonderful to want to help others and lighten their load, it’s important not to do so at great expense to yourself. Certainly, you do not want to overwhelm yourself when your to-do list is already quite packed. And don’t you dare even think about sacrificing your self-care time to take on even more than you’ve already got on your plate. Especially not to take on something you don’t even want to do. Even if you care deeply for the other party, you’ve got to care for yourself, too, my lovely.
And honestly, I’ve found from personal experience that saying “yes” when I’m already burnt out can even lead to resentment towards the other party. Certainly, we don’t want our burnout to affect our relationship with our friends and loved ones. Especially when we just wanted to be kind in the first place.
2. That Extra Shift At Work That You REALLY Don’t Want
I used to be the person who would accept nearly every shift that I was offered at my day job. Despite how much I resented giving up my personal time for a job that I wasn’t even passionate about. But one day, in the midst of burnout, I decided to stop taking on extra shifts for the sake of protecting my mental health. I decided that I will only work as regularly scheduled, and even set up a “focus mode” to silence all day job-related texts, calls, and notifications while I’m on my personal time. My personal time is valuable, and I am unavailable to sacrifice it for a few bucks.
And by setting clear and strict boundaries with my day job, not only have I set my soul free and saved my sanity, but I have also boosted my job performance while I’m at work. And honestly, even if you love your job, boundaries and self-care need to be a part of your workday. That way, your dream job doesn’t become your worst nightmare.
3. Outings And Social Events You Don’t Genuinely Want To Attend
While there are certainly some outings and social events that I get excited about attending, even as an introvert, I also need my solitude at times. And honestly, there are some days that I just want to spend a cozy evening at home and recharge my social battery. I’m not always up for a trip to the coffee shop to socialize after a long week. And I’m certainly not up for going to a party or event where I’ll be surrounded by people I hardly know on most occasions. So while I certainly appreciate the invite, I often find that it’s best to kindly decline. Rather than try to make an excuse to make my escape early.
4. Putting Yourself Into Situations That You Don’t Vibe With
There is a major difference between doing things that make you uncomfortable for the sake of your growth and putting yourself into situations that feel toxic or out of alignment for you. And you know the difference. Whether it be meeting up with a certain person when the vibes feel off, going to a place that makes you feel uneasy, or even a certain activity that makes you feel anxious, just say no to it. Vibes don’t lie, my lovely. And if you’re intuition is telling you not to do something, listen to it. It’s not worth it to put yourself into any situation that makes you feel uneasy or unsafe when your gut is telling you something is off.
5. Allowing Negative Energy and Bad Vibes Into Your Life
Let’s face it, there are some people out there who never have anything nice or positive to say. There are also some places, situations, and things that seldom feel uplifting or empowering. Certainly, it’s necessary to acknowledge that life isn’t always puppies and peonies. But it’s also exhausting to constantly be bombarded with doom and gloom, when we know the world isn’t all bad either! Which is why I personally choose not to engage with people who can’t seem to do anything but complain and dwell in negativity. And why I also limit the time I spend reading or watching the news. As well as keeping my distance from anything with a low vibration or negative energy.
Honestly, freeing yourself from constant pessimism and negativity will set your soul free. Life is too short and too beautiful to constantly be focused on negativity. Especially when it comes to things outside yourself that you can do little to nothing about.
6. Online Arguments
Some people truly seem to pick up their phones or log on to social media just to stir up an argument. Oftentimes, without anything valuable to contribute. Whether it’s through a rude comment on someone else’s post or their own rage-baiting post, they’re actively looking for a reaction. And you know what? Let’s not give them the attention that they’re seeking. Because honestly, you’re never going to win an argument against those types of people. No matter how you try to debunk their negative claims, and how strong your rebuttals are. They’re after engagement, and by arguing with them, they’re getting exactly what they want.
7. Letting Exes and Former Friends Back Into Your Life
While it most certainly stings, sometimes the universe removes people from your life for a darn good reason. Whether it be your romantic partner suddenly ghosting you, or your former friend abruptly ending your friendship. It’s okay to admit that it hurts when someone you care about is no longer in your life, whether the decision was theirs, yours, or mutual. It’s also more than okay to miss that person and the connection that you shared. But, my lovely, you have got to let that person go. Especially if they’ve caused you significant pain in the past. Don’t allow them to come crawling back and open the door for them to hurt you again.
8. One-Sided Relationships or Friendships
While it’s true that not everyone can give 50/50 at every moment in a relationship or friendship, it certainly shouldn’t become a pattern for the relationship to feel one-sided. You shouldn’t always have to be the one to reach out to your friends first to start a conversation. Nor should you always have to be the one to plan every date with your partner, or be the sole person trying to keep the romance alive. It’s not fair to you if your partner can’t even do the bare minimum, while you’re always going above and beyond. Nor is it fair to you to try to keep a friendship alive with someone who never reaches out to you, unless they want something from you.
With that said, I often find that one-sided relationships often feel lonelier than being on my own. So while it certainly stings, it’s better to just let such relationships go. Honestly, it’s what’s best to free your soul and heal your heart from what just isn’t working out.
9. Allowing Your Boundaries To Be Crossed
My lovely, you have the right to decide what you are and are not comfortable with, and what is and isn’t okay for you. If you’re uncomfortable with others touching or hugging you, you have the right not to be touched. Including by family. If you don’t want to drink alcohol, you have the right not to be pressured into having an alcoholic beverage. Without having to explain yourself. If certain topics of conversation upset you, you have the right not to engage in them. Whatever your boundaries are, you have a right to them. And you owe it to yourself not to allow anyone to cross them.
10. Disrespect — Of Any Kind
Under no circumstances should any of us tolerate any form of disrespect from anyone. It doesn’t matter if they’re someone we’re close with or care about deeply. Nor does it matter if they’re technically an authority figure. Nobody, I repeat, nobody has the right to disrespect you and make you feel like you’re lesser than them. Even if they claim to be joking, you should not feel as though you need to tolerate hurtful comments. Nor should your boundaries ever be crossed or undermined. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself, my lovely. Don’t stay silent in the face of disrespect, or give anyone permission to treat you poorly.
11. People Pleasing
We all need to stop dimming our light, making ourselves smaller, and over-extending ourselves just so that people will like us. Honestly, it’s so draining to constantly mask your authentic self and put yourself into a box, just to win the approval of others. Especially when you’re never going to make everyone happy anyway, regardless of what you do. And you know what? That’s good news. Because if you can’t make everyone happy, you might as well set your soul free and make yourself happy. It’s past time to break free from the box you’ve put yourself in to make others feel more comfortable. The right people will actually respect you more for it.
And the people who want to keep you within that box? I’m sure you can think of a good place to kindly shove that box for them. 😉
Set Your Soul Free By Setting Boundaries With Yourself
Sometimes, we have to be willing to admit that we are the ones holding ourselves back. After all, we’re the ones responsible for taking charge of our own lives and doing what’s best for ourselves. We absolutely can not be afraid to look at ourselves in the mirror and realize when we are the problem. Self-care involves taking accountability, my lovely. Sometimes, we have to let parts of ourselves go that don’t align with who we want to be. There are also times when we have to be willing to sacrifice our short-term comfort for our long-term goals. As well as times when we have to stop bullying ourselves and making ourselves feel terrible.
We all need to be able to say no to ourselves. Because we most certainly do not want to allow ourselves to stay stuck in any place we don’t want to be. Nor do we want to dim our own light. Especially not for the sake of short-term pleasure or for momentary comfort.
12. Doomscrolling
Practically everyone who has spent any significant amount of time on their devices is guilty of doomscrolling. We’ve all caught ourselves mindlessly scrolling our feeds, consuming post after post with no real goal in mind. Oftentimes, making ourselves feel bad in the process. Whether by comparison to other people’s highlight reels, the realization we’ve wasted so much time, or by quite literally scrolling through content that instills feelings of doom. Mindless doomscrolling seldom leads to any positive feelings. Which is why it’s so important to watch how we’re interacting with social media, and stop ourselves when we find ourselves doomscrolling.
With that in mind, sometimes the best thing to do when you catch yourself doomscrolling is to just get off your devices entirely and go do something that doesn’t involve any sort of screen. Because honestly, you need to free your soul of the digital world sometimes, and indulge in the real world.
13. Checking In On Former Friends and Exes on Social Media
Let’s be honest, we all know we’re not doing ourselves any favors by looking at our exes’ and former friends’ social media profiles. After all, the universe removed these people from our lives for a reason. And honestly, we’re only hurting ourselves by checking in on what they’ve been up to. Once they’re out of your life, it’s time to stop giving them your attention, even from afar. It doesn’t matter who they’re hanging out with, who they may be dating, or what their lives entail. Focus on yourself, my lovely. Unfollow and block your exes and former friends if you have to. Just don’t waste your valuable time and energy scrolling through their profile.
14. Excessive Spending and Impulse Shopping
I’m not going to lie, I enjoy shopping and treating myself to nice things. Especially when I’m looking to reward myself for doing something difficult or for a big achievement. Or even when I simply really want something. But certainly, there does need to be some discretion when it comes to making purchases and spending my money. Especially with how easy it is to shop online at any given moment. Which is why it’s best to never buy anything on impulse, just because it’s on sale at the moment. As well as why it’s great to have “no buy” months every so often, and have a strict budget for when you do choose to treat yourself.
Because, honestly, not only does constantly hitting the “order now” button drain your bank account, but it also makes it feel less special when your packages arrive. Not to mention, it can also be quite overwhelming when it comes time to find a home within your space for your impulse purchases. Or having to decide what to do with them if you didn’t want them that badly after all.
15. Falling Back Into Bad Habits — Even “Just This Once”
Breaking a bad or simply unhelpful habit is quite a challenging and highly worthwhile feat. And whatever the bad habit may have been, there is often a strong “why” behind why we made the decision to break free of that habit. Whether it’s something as simple as deciding not to snack in bed or to stop staying in bed past noon, or something much bigger, we don’t want to find ourselves slipping back into those habits. Because, honestly, sometimes it only takes one allowance for a bad habit to come back full-swing. And even if it doesn’t, it never feels good to break that promise to yourself. No matter how big or small that habit you committed to breaking may seem.
16. Eating Foods That Make You Feel Bad
First things first, I’d like to state that I don’t believe that any food is particularly bad. Including foods that are intended to be indulgences rather than provide nutritional value. And by no means should you deny yourself something that you truly enjoy eating. That said, if you do have any food sensitivities and feel unwell after eating certain things, it’s more than worth avoiding those foods. Because honestly, it’s never fun to have an upset or angry belly, or to feel bad because of something you ate. So if you find that certain foods tend to leave you feeling terrible afterward, it’s often best to pass on them and choose to eat something else. Perhaps something that you like even more.
17. Needless Restriction and Limitations
My lovely, life is too short not to enjoy it, and allow yourself to indulge in the things that you love. And while it’s certainly important to have reasonable limitations and a bit of self-control, you don’t have to deny yourself joy either. After all, you’ve got to nurture your soul sometimes. Let yourself indulge in those seasonal and holiday sweets, my lovely. Allow yourself to sit down and spend an evening playing your favorite cozy game, with your favorite snacks on hand. Buy the dress that’s been on your wishlist for weeks. Life is meant to be enjoyed. And sometimes, you need to let your soul be free of restrictions and limitations.
18. Continuing Lifestyle Choices That Don’t Align With You
Whether it be a habit that objectively isn’t helpful, or even a generally positive lifestyle choice that just doesn’t suit us, we should all phase out what isn’t helping or resonating with us. Certainly, it goes without saying that we want to leave unhealthy habits and patterns that stunt our growth behind us. We should all be striving to free ourselves of constant complaining and stagnation. However, we also shouldn’t try to force ourselves into a lifestyle that doesn’t align with us. Such as waking up at 4:00 AM if you’re not that big of a morning person. Or forcing yourself to do a workout at the gym, when you dislike that workout and the gym environment.
It’s not sustainable to try to force yourself into a lifestyle that doesn’t align with you. Besides, you want to build your best life and thrive as your best self. Not just copy someone else’s lifestyle. So let’s ditch the belief that we have to wake up ridiculously early, immediately guzzle a gallon of water, and head to the gym for a HIIT workout. When a slower and calmer morning routine would suit us better. Free yourself of the idea that you have to live your life in any way that doesn’t feel authentic to you.
19. Following A Path That Doesn’t Spark Joy Within You
It’s essential to have goals and to want to grow. But let’s make sure that the goals that we have, and the path that we’re following, are truly what we want. After all, we are the ones who have to live our lives. Not the people whom we may be trying to impress. So let’s make sure that we are truly doing what sets our souls on fire. Without falling back on what merely feels safe or familiar to us. And without the fear of who may judge us for blazing our own trail, just because they don’t understand. Let’s live our lives and set goals that mean something to us. Rather than hoping that following the path someone else wants for us will one day feel right. When we know it won’t.
20. Making Excuses Not To Take Action On What You Want
If you want something bad enough, you have to make an effort to get it, and stop making excuses as to why you’re not going for it. Especially as most excuses are absolute nonsense. Or at the very least, can easily be worked around. We all know that citing a lack of time is complete melarky when we have time to scroll on our digital devices. Along with knowing that there’s always a way when we truly have the will. Even if it’s uncomfortable in the moment. Because honestly? It’s even more uncomfortable to let a nonsense excuse come between you and the life you want.
21. Staying Too Comfortable
Growth happens when you step outside of your comfort zone, my lovely. Even if it feels scary, it is well worth it so that you can truly thrive and build your best life. Don’t be the one keeping yourself stuck, just because it’s daunting to step outside of your comfort zone. Take a deep breath, say some affirmations, and just go for it. Free your soul of the fear and doubt that’s keeping you stuck, and watch yourself thrive.
22. Allowing Yourself To Get Out Of Your Routine
While I do have slightly different routines for different days (i.e., work days versus days off), and I also like to switch things up based on my mood or the current season, the core of my daily routine stays relatively consistent. I avoid staying in bed far past my wake-up time, even on the days that it’s hard to get out of bed. And I don’t allow myself to stay up excessively late unless it’s a special occasion such as New Year’s Eve. Whilst I also keep my self-care routines intact, and avoid falling out of any part of my routine. Or skipping portions of my routine entirely.
Because certainly, we want to keep up with routines that help us thrive. Even if we may not feel like getting out of bed when our alarm goes off, or we may not feel like rolling out our yoga mat. Or if the temptation to play cozy games until 2:00 AM is strong. Let’s not fall out of routine for our short-term desires. Or because we simply “don’t feel like it” today. Because tomorrow, we’ll either be thanking ourselves for doing it anyway or wishing we had stayed on track. The choice is yours, my lovely.
23. Allowing Your Self-Care To Fall To The Wayside
It is so important for us to look after our physical, mental, and emotional well-being, and to stay on top of our self-care. We absolutely must allow ourselves time to relax, have some fun, and allow our souls to be free. So don’t you even think about skipping the leisure time that you’ve worked into your weekly schedule. Or cutting corners on your “you time” and rushing your skin and hair-care routine. Or skipping a meal, when you know your body needs the fuel. Promise yourself that you will never allow your self-care to fall to the wayside. No matter how busy you may be, how tired you may feel, or who else may be wanting your attention.
Remember, self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
24. Perfectionism and Ridiculously High Expectations
My lovely, we are all only human, and there is no such thing as perfection. And while we most certainly want to put our all into everything that sets our soul on fire, we also have to understand that there’s always going to be room for improvement. Which is honestly quite beautiful, because it also means that we can continue to grow. So let’s stop setting our standards so high that we’re afraid to even try, because we know they’ll be hard to meet. Let’s stop striving for perfection and start striving for progress. While being open to making mistakes, and allowing ourselves to learn from them. While allowing our soul to be free of unfair self-criticism and impossible standards.
25. Negative Self-Talk
We are often our meanest bully. And you know what? That nonsense absolutely needs to stop. Let’s stop with the self-deprecating jokes every time we make a mistake or feel a bit insecure. Let’s stop picking ourselves apart and calling ourselves awful names. There’s no need for us to bully ourselves for being human. We’ve all got to stop feeding ourselves with negative beliefs about who we are, and not diminish our own light. Honestly, if you wouldn’t dare to say to others what you say to yourself, you shouldn’t be saying it to yourself either.
26. Repressing Your Emotions
My lovely, it’s okay to fully feel and express your emotions, no matter what they may be. If you’re excited about something or proud of an accomplishment, let your joy shine unapologetically. The same goes for feeling negative emotions such as anger, sadness, heartbreak, or grief. You don’t have to bottle up your pain and try to hold it inside. As a matter of fact, it’s better to let it out and allow yourself to cry. Or scream. Or both. It’s okay not to be okay, my lovely. It’s okay to feel all of your emotions fully and without apology.
Don’t hold back your excitement because it may make others feel more comfortable. You’re excitement just might motivate them to follow their own heart. And don’t hold your grief inside so that you can appear to be strong for others. Because honestly, there’s strength in allowing yourself to feel deeply. Let your soul be free to feel every emotion, positive or negative.
Becoming A Kinder and More Socially Mindful Person
Full transparency, as a neurodivergent woman, I do struggle quite a bit with understanding social norms. However, I refuse to use that as an excuse not to strive to be kinder to others. Especially as I can empathize with wanting more grace than society tends to give others for simply being human. Whether for making a mistake, or for simply making choices that others may not understand. We’re all only human, my lovely. This includes the person who’s saying outrageous things on the internet. Or the person who’s chosen a life path that absolutely baffles you. Because honestly, you don’t always know their story.
Everyone deserves a bit of grace. Including that belligerent individual you’d love to give a whack to the face. Even if that grace comes in the form of silence and letting them be. And honestly, sometimes even when our intentions are pure, we have to allow people to make their own choices when they’re ready. But all in all, let’s speak of others and treat them as we’d like to be treated.
27. Gossip
While gossip can certainly be quite entertaining, it’s important to remember that those you may be gossiping about are only human too. And just as you are, they’re often just trying to do the best as they can in the moment. Even if the choices that they’re making seem a bit baffling. Besides, you often don’t even know the full story. If anything that you may have heard about those involved is even true to begin with. So it’s better not to discuss your assumptions about them with others when they’re not even in the room to defend themselves. Especially as rumors can get blown out of proportion quickly, and the real people involved have to deal with the fallout.
Remember, you wouldn’t want to be the topic of someone’s tea spilling session when you’re not able to tell your truth. Especially when what is being said is anything but the truth, and was formed from a nonsensical assumption.
28. Sharing Unnecessary Opinions — Especially When No One Asked
While it’s certainly okay to have an opinion, some opinions are best left unsaid. Especially when that opinion is on something that hardly has any effect on your life. And even more so, when it can cause someone to feel bad about what brings them so much joy. Remember, just because something doesn’t match your personal taste, it does not mean that it’s inherently bad, and that others can’t enjoy it. Whether it be a certain fashion style, music artist, TV series, food, or anything else, there is no reason why you have to be unnecessarily critical of something that you simply don’t vibe with. Especially when no one even asked for your opinion.
And honestly, even when they do ask, there are ways of saying that you don’t particularly care for something. Without tearing apart someone else’s joy.
29. Being Critical Of Others
We are all on our own journey, and we all have different stories. Meaning that certainly, we are not always going to understand why others make the choices that they make, or why they are the way that they are. And vice versa. With that in mind, other people’s choices are not ours to judge. Especially when we consider that not everyone can choose their circumstances, and most people can seldom change their entire life around overnight. Let’s also remember that our personal goals and desires also may not be in alignment with what someone else may want for their lives. And it’s not up to us to judge what lights up someone else’s soul.
The best thing that we can often do is give people grace, rather than judgment. Whilst allowing them room for growth, but allowing them to make their own choices and embrace their own journey. Even if we wouldn’t make those choices for ourselves. And honestly, it’s often better to focus on yourself, rather than passing judgment upon others.
30. The Need To Always Be “Right”
It’s only human for us to want to be “right” and have others see things from our perspective. Whether it be our partner, a family member, a friend, or even a stranger we’ve found ourselves in a disagreement with, we want the other person to see why we’re in the right. But here’s the thing, the other party wants the exact same from us. Or for us to at least understand where they are coming from and how they’re feeling. And honestly? Sometimes, we have to be willing to admit when we’re in the wrong. Or at least be willing to empathize with the other person. Especially as, sometimes, neither person is necessarily “right” or “wrong”, and there’s room for compromise and understanding.
While you certainly shouldn’t allow your boundaries to be crossed, it’s also important to consider the feelings of those we care about. Remember, those you care about also have their own boundaries and their own reasons for reacting in the way that they are. And sometimes, we all have to be willing to set our egos aside to nurture our relationships with those we love. Be it our partner, our best friend, our parents, or our children.
31. Giving Unwarranted Advice
As someone who wants everyone to see others live their best lives and become their best selves, I naturally want to give others advice and help point them in the right direction. However, I also fully understand that what I may personally recommend may not be suitable for everyone. Which is why I always say to take what you need and leave what you don’t from my content. Plus, not everyone is ready to follow or even listen to any sort of advice. Sometimes, we have to allow people to just be heard and be willing to listen without the need to chime in with our advice.
Certainly, we can offer our advice to those who are ready to hear it, and especially to those who ask for it. But let’s also use our discretion to know when to hold back on giving advice or “tough love” that we weren’t asked for.
32. Imposing Your Personal Beliefs and Choices Upon Others
I’m going to be brutally honest with you about this one: the mentality of “my way or the highway” type of thinking needs to be ditched. Everybody is different, with their own way of thriving, their own wants and needs, and their own set of values and beliefs. It’s quite beautiful when you think about it. So let’s not try to impose and force our own beliefs, values, lifestyle choices, and desires upon others. As a lifestyle coach, I am here to guide others to build a life that works for them, without trying to change who they are as a person. I’d much prefer someone to build a life that feels authentic, safe, and aligned to who they are than feel as though they need to be just like me.
33. Holding Grudges Over Small Stuff
We’re all only human, and we all make mistakes. Including mistakes that can hurt the ones we care for the most. With that said, while it’s important for us to have boundaries and not allow others to mistreat us, we should give others some grace for the little things. Especially when we know that our loved ones didn’t intend to upset us. Certainly, we should let others know how their actions made us feel, because they often have no way of knowing if we don’t share our honest thoughts and feelings. But we should also take into account that our partner, best friend, and family member is only human too.
Remember, life gets the better of all of us at times. And sometimes, our words and actions can get misinterpreted into something that wasn’t intended. So let’s be willing to forgive others when there is a misunderstanding, or when someone can’t show up as we’d like them to.
Conclusion
In honor of No-vember, let’s commit to embracing the power that simply saying “no” has to set our souls free. And let’s carry that commitment into December, and into the New Year. But regardless of what month you may have stumbled across this article, now is a great time to commit to enforcing your boundaries. Whether with others or even with yourself. As well as to take a step back from things that may have us operating from a less-than-kind place, even if we mean well. Let’s reclaim our power and become our best selves by saying no to what drains us, dulls our sparkle, and doesn’t have us thriving as our best selves.
What are you saying NO to this No-vember? What are some things that you’ve had to stop yourself from doing to become your best self? Is there anything that you’re looking to stop doing and start saying no to as we head into the New Year? Is there anything that you’d like to personally add to this list? I’d love to read your comments!
Oh yes these points are all spot on. I think we need to all apply them more to live our fullest lives.
Allie of
http://www.allienyc.com
For sure, Allie! Sometimes, it’s what we choose not to do that allows us to thrive and live our best lives!