One thing that we absolutely must stop doing is we strive to live our best lives is engaging in negative self-talk. Far too many of us are our own worst bullies, and we know that we’re not being constructive with our criticisms of ourselves. Certainly, it’s important for us to acknowledge where we can grow. But we know when we’re taking it to an extreme extent, and that we’d never talk to another person that way. That said, we’ve been conditioned most of our lives to be highly critical and harsh towards every aspect of ourselves. But that doesn’t make it okay for us to bully ourselves. So, it’s for us to ditch the nonsense of negative self-talk. Starting right now.
Seriously, my lovely, it’s time to stop beating yourself up every time that you make a mistake. It’s past time for you to stop picking yourself apart and being overly critical of yourself. And those self-deprecating jokes need to stop as well. When I say that it’s time for you to ditch negative self-talk, I mean all of it. Because even if we really believe we’re joking, our subconscious still hears what we’re saying to ourselves. And our subconscious is just going to believe what it hears us say. And because we manifest from our subconscious, we don’t want to do ourselves a disservice by feeding it nonsense.
Besides, we’re all highly valuable human beings, my lovely. And I know you wouldn’t even think to say half of what you might be saying to yourself to another person. So let’s ditch the negative self-talk for ourselves, too. I promise you that your life will be better when you stop telling yourself those nonsensical lies. Or should we just call it what it really is? The complete and utter bullshit.
Negative Self-Talk Is A Blatantly Rude Disservice To Yourself
Honestly, we need to make it a rule that if we wouldn’t say something to someone else, we shouldn’t say it to ourselves. Especially with how unfiltered we are when we start bullying ourselves and picking ourselves apart. We’re the first to harshly judge our appearance in the mirror and nitpick every flaw we believe we have. When we know, we wouldn’t even notice such a “flaw” in others, or even see it as a flaw to begin with on someone else. Nor would we be constantly reminding our best friend of a mistake she made 5-years-ago, and staying mad at her for it. And we certainly wouldn’t blame our sister for something that happened to her that was beyond her control. So why do we do it to ourselves?
Heck, we wouldn’t say a lot of the things we say to ourselves to our worst enemy. Because we know it’s hurtful, rude, and straight-up uncalled for. So let’s stop talking to ourselves as if our own feelings don’t matter. Let’s stop devaluing ourselves in the mirror and in our heads at 2:00 AM. Because we know we deserve so much better than that from ourselves. And honestly? We know we wouldn’t want to take that nonsense from an external source, and we’d be pretty darn offended if a stranger said those things to us. And we’d even be quick to defend ourselves against someone who’s projecting their own insecurities back onto us.
Negative Self-Talk Can Hinder Your Growth Path
As we strive to step into the best versions of ourselves, we must not be the very ones holding ourselves back. And certainly, negative self-talk is a quick way to sabotage ourselves from making strides towards our best life. Especially as it feeds back into our limiting beliefs about ourselves, and gives our fears too much power. Plus, it subconsciously reinforces the lie that we’re not good enough to become the person we dream of becoming. Which is all the more reason to ditch negative self-talk and never look back.
Seriously, let’s stop with the “I can’t” statements before we even let ourselves try, and try again. Let’s stop carrying our past mistakes with us, when we’re not even the same person we were when we made them years ago. Or even months ago. Let’s stop questioning whether or not we’re worthy of having everything we’ve ever dreamed of. Because, spoiler alert, we’re all worthy of the absolute best. We’re more than worthy of growth, healing, and betterment. So let’s stop trying to talk ourselves out of becoming the most confident, abundant, and happiest versions of ourselves.
Ditch that negative self-talk right where you are, my lovely. And take those positive affirmations by the hand and let them lead you to the life you’ve always dreamed of. You’re more than worthy. Now let yourself grow.
Poor Self-Concept May Inadvertently Block or Delay Your Manifestations
The Law of Attraction is powerful, and it proves just how powerful our mindsets are. Especially when we take inspired action to manifest the life that we desire. It’s insane how much is possible when we just believe that it’s possible for us. But with that said, it’s important to note that we manifest what we truly believe is possible for ourselves. So what comes into fruition for us is a direct mirror of our self-concept. And while we technically can manifest our desires while still holding negative beliefs about ourselves, it can significantly slow down and severely limit what manifests for us. Or our manifestations may arrive on a shaky foundation.
And we certainly don’t want that. Nor do we want to even block our manifestations entirely because we can’t stop bullying ourselves. My lovely, your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. And when you speak negatively to yourself, your subconscious reacts to those lies you’re telling yourself. Your subconscious doesn’t know that you’re “just joking” or that you’re trying to protect yourself from someone else’s judgment. It internalizes your harsh words and reflects them through your lived reality in some way. Seriously, if you’re looking to manifest your dream life, you need to ditch the negative self-talk immediately. Throw those negative thoughts in the trash.
Oh, and the good news? Your subconscious also internalizes positive self-talk over time. So the more you say your affirmations and speak kindly to yourself, the more you’ll finally start to see your own worth. And see that confidence reflected back to you in many ways.
Negative Beliefs About Yourself Can Poorly Impact Your Relationships With Others
I’m not going to lie, I do disagree with the idea that you can’t love others until you love yourself. I’ve lived it, and I’ve also been burned by it. But with that said, I will say that you can not build deep, meaningful, and healthy connections if you don’t love yourself. Or at least, it’s extremely difficult to build a strong and lasting connection if you have such poor beliefs about yourself. Because even if our intentions are pure with others, our doubts, poor self-esteem, and fears tend to sabotage the connections we’re trying to build.
Not to mention, they leave us vulnerable to mistreatment and being taken advantage of. Because oftentimes, when we don’t think very highly of ourselves, we’re prone to letting our boundaries be crossed. And we start allowing nonsense that we absolutely shouldn’t just to keep people in our lives. As if we don’t deserve significantly better, when we know deep down that we can make better friends or find a better partner. Or that we’re straight-up better off being on our own. But our negative self-talk has led us to believe the lie that we somehow deserve to have our boundaries crossed and be mistreated.
Or, on the contrary, when someone does come along and treats us with the utmost respect, we end up giving them the side-eye. Because we struggle to believe that others can genuinely see our worth, when we’re so used to picking ourselves apart. And we may even sabotage a wonderful friendship or relationship because of our own doubts. And we know we don’t want that.
Your Mental Health Will Improve Once You Ditch The Negative Self-Talk
Honestly, it goes without saying that negative self-talk isn’t exactly good for our mental health. And knowing that our mental health is just as important as our physical health, and can even impact our physical health, it gives us all the more reason to ditch negative self-talk. Let’s break free from the cycle of constantly putting ourselves down and diminishing our feelings of self-worth. Honestly, it’s scary just how much our negative beliefs about ourselves can spiral if we let them go unchecked. And we don’t want to create unnecessary stress and anxiety in our lives. Nor do we want to lead ourselves into a low feeling that can be challenging to break.
Honestly, not allowing myself to engage in self-deprecating humor or general negative self-talk has done wonders in helping my own mental health. I also must say, there is absolutely no shame if you need help working through your negative beliefs about yourself with a licensed therapist. Especially if you need some guidance on how to replace those negative thoughts. Or recognize when and why those beliefs are coming up for you. Take your mental health seriously, my lovely.
Mental Health Resources
If you are struggling with your mental health, please be proactive in caring for yourself, and consider using the resources below to get the help that you deserve. The content on this blog, nor my coaching services, is intended to replace therapy or any professional care. Nor is this content suitable for crisis intervention. And no matter how mild or severe your struggles may seem, there is help available for everyone.
Please note that these are United States-based resources. If you live outside the United States, a quick Google search should bring up resources that are available in your region.
| National Suicide Prevention Lifeline | Call or Text 988 https://chat.988lifeline.org/ |
| Find A Therapist | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us |
Your Confidence Will Blossom When You Stop Bullying Yourself
As you ditch the negative self-talk and start speaking to yourself as though you love yourself, that self-loving confidence will just become a natural part of who you are. Seriously, you will just start to glow and carry yourself differently, and with more confidence. You’ll start taking on my challenges and opportunities with less fear. You’ll feel beautiful and confident on low-effort days. My lovely, changing the way you speak to yourself will elevate your whole frequency. And you won’t even have to consciously think about how you’re carrying yourself.
Others will naturally be attracted to your radiance, and you’ll have the confidence to accept their compliments without rebuttal. Nor will you be intimidated by the greatness of others, because you’re just as amazing as they are. This isn’t even to mentionthat abundance will just start flowing to you. And you’ll know that you deserve every bit of it. While knowing that your potential is absolutely infinite.
Seriously, there’s no reason not to ditch negative self-talk. And the sooner you ditch that nonsense, the sooner you truly start to glow and radiate positivity.
Conclusion
Don’t let negative self-talk hold you back another day, my lovely. Or even for another second. You know that you are worthy of so much love, kindness, and respect. So, please, ditch the negative self-talk and trade it for self-love and affirmations. Speak to yourself the way that you’d speak to your best friend, your partner, your sister, your mom, your grandma, or simply someone you care about. Hype yourself up as though you’re your own life coach. And watch as your confidence grows and your glow becomes blinding as those limiting beliefs become a thing of the past.
Do you struggle with negative self-talk, or have you in the past? How are you working to overcome it and build your confidence? And while you’re at it, tell me at least one thing that you love about yourself in the comments. Or ten, because the more we hype ourselves up, the better. ✨
Great advice, written in a great tone.
The mind is such a powerful tool that we have and what we believe is what we see and not the other way around. Negative self talk ends up creating emotions which leads to actions that were not meant to be. Thank you, this was a great read.
Great post! So many helpful tips and food for thought…